Hello there my reader friend! Have you ever faced disappointment because things didn’t turn out the way you expected? In today’s blog, we will explore ways to overcome broken expectations and recognize that while disappointment may momentarily cloud our vision, it also presents an opportunity for growth and transformation. We will look at three strategies—embracing acceptance, cultivating resilience, and reframing perspective—to equip ourselves with the tools necessary to navigate life's unexpected twists and turns with grace and humor.
What do I mean by expectations?
I perceive expectations to be the “silent architects of our desires”, projecting visions of the future based on past experiences, societal norms (especially this one!), and personal aspirations. Some examples are anticipating a promotion, buying a home, getting married at a certain age, envisioning a perfect relationship, or expecting smooth sailing in our plans. Some may say that expectations "color" the lens through which we view the world.
It is funny because we do not notice that expectations are like invisible threads woven into the fabric of our lives, and they shape our perceptions and guide our actions. One positive way to think about this is that they serve as benchmarks for success, providing a sense of direction and purpose, (so we think!) in our endeavors. In the mix of human experiences, expectations often unravel, leaving us dealing with disappointment and uncertainty.
OK, now that we delved into a possible meaning of expectations what can we do to overcome broken expectations? Here are three ideas I have been applying to my own life.
Tip #1: Why not embrace acceptance? We must acknowledge and accept the reality of the situation – adopt the 'it is what it is!' mindset – and recognize that broken expectations are a natural part of life's ebb and flow. Instead of dwelling on what could have been, let’s focus on accepting the present moment and embracing the lessons it holds. If we don’t accept the situation at hand, we tend to remain stuck in the past, resent the present, and sabotage our chances to move forward.
Tip #2: Why not cultivate resilience? We can nurture resilience and tap into our inner strength to bounce back from disappointment and setbacks. Personally, I perceive challenges as opportunities for growth and adaptation, enabling me to emerge stronger and more resilient with each trial I face. While I may not relish trials and would prefer life to flow like a peaceful stream, their inevitability prompts me to view them as opportunities for developing resilience.
Tip #3 This is my favorite one – reframing my perspective. How does it work? I endeavor to shift my perspective by reframing broken expectations as opportunities for new beginnings and unforeseen adventures. Embrace the unexpected twists and turns of life with curiosity and openness, trusting that new opportunities await just around the corner. I like to envision it as starting a new chapter filled with new people, places, and experiences.
Launching Petit Espace has been a challenging journey for me. Since its inception in January 2023, I've encountered numerous broken expectations. Despite this, I persist in applying these tips to stay motivated and propel Petit Espace towards my vision. With a mindset ingrained in my being to do whatever it takes, I am confident in reaching my goals.
If you want to confront disappointments head-on, here's a fun idea to propel you forward: Let's create a 'Disappointment Jar'! Now, if you've read my 'Gratitude Jar' blog, you might be thinking, 'Patu, how many jars are we going to start?' Well, my response to you is: as many as we need to keep life funny and interesting. The concept behind the Disappointment Jar is to transform broken expectations into a lighthearted ritual. Playfully jot down our shattered hopes and dreams, and decorate the jar with funny stickers or doodles to lighten the mood and remind ourselves not to take life too seriously.
If we have a group of friends who embrace the idea, we can annually host a 'Lemonade Party'. Here's what I mean: Invite friends over for a themed dinner party where each guest shares their most hilarious or absurd experience of broken expectations, and how their new chapter unfolded thereafter.
Now, my dear reader friend, in today’s journey, we've explored ways to overcome broken expectations, recognizing that while disappointment may momentarily cloud our vision, it also presents an opportunity for growth and transformation.
So, fear not! Remember to embrace acceptance, acknowledge the reality of the situation, and focus on the present moment.
In the wise words of Helen Keller, "Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement. Nothing can be done without hope and confidence." So let's face our disappointments with hope, confidence, and a sprinkle of humor, knowing that each setback is merely a stepping stone towards brighter tomorrows.
By the way, Petit Espace is the brand I'm launching. Feel free to visit us at www.mypetitespace.com to meet my "baby!"
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PS2: If you are wondering about the picture, I took that photo in Clearwater, Florida. It was a gorgeous sunrise, I thought I would share it with you!